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The divorce thread

Post by KAG » Mon Aug 01, 2016 3:16 pm

Since the running joke with flight crew is the divorce rate, just wondering who on here is, or has gone though this.
Any advice to pass along as many on here will be in need of it at some point.

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by ahramin » Mon Aug 01, 2016 3:48 pm

If you want to stay married, pick a good one and make your relationship with your spouse a priority. I don't think there's anything particular to aviation. I suspect the majority of divorced couples are happier off divorced.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by pelmet » Mon Aug 01, 2016 4:04 pm

Except for those monthly payments. I believe that they are taxed differently as well.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Heliian » Mon Aug 01, 2016 5:38 pm

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by TeePeeCreeper » Mon Aug 01, 2016 5:59 pm

Suffice to say, my ex finally agreed to sign off on our divorce exactly one week ago today. It was a relief after a 2 year long (expensive!) legal battle!

As a wise "Tim Bit loving" co-worker once recounted...

"You know why divorces cost so damn much? Because they are worth every penny!"

My advice is that if your matter can't be mediated in short order, do not delay or pussy foot around. Seek legal representation and spend the bucks to hire a good lawyer. Fight for what is in your children's best interest (if you have kids) and don't back down. Don't doubt yourself!

To those whom might read this post, finding themselves in a similar position as I once did... Keep your chin up!

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PS: A wise mentor once told me that "the best revenge is to be happy". As simple as it may seem it is very true.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by JasonE » Mon Aug 01, 2016 6:21 pm

Love is grand, divorce is a 100....
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Old fella » Mon Aug 01, 2016 6:31 pm

In my older age, am unable to impart any advice on this subject. Been married to the same broad for 37 yrs.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Eric Janson » Mon Aug 01, 2016 11:46 pm

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Mach1 » Tue Aug 02, 2016 6:31 am

TeePeeCreeper wrote:Suffice to say, my ex finally agreed to sign off on our divorce exactly one week ago today. It was a relief after a 2 year long (expensive!) legal battle!

As a wise "Tim Bit loving" co-worker once recounted...

"You know why divorces cost so damn much? Because they are worth every penny!"

My advice is that if your matter can't be mediated in short order, do not delay or pussy foot around. Seek legal representation and spend the bucks to hire a good lawyer. Fight for what is in your children's best interest (if you have kids) and don't back down. Don't doubt yourself!

To those whom might read this post, finding themselves in a similar position as I once did... Keep your chin up!

All the best,
TPC

PS: A wise mentor once told me that "the best revenge is to be happy". As simple as it may seem it is very true.
Everything he said. Make that good lawyer a woman... they are better sharks than the men.

Also: A hunting accident is far cheaper. (That's humour for those who might take that seriously)
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by golden hawk » Tue Aug 02, 2016 7:39 am

AvCanada might need a bigger server for this thread......
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by fish4life » Tue Aug 02, 2016 9:26 am

Haha, if you aren't married yet make sure she makes more than you do and it will make your divorce much cheaper.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Flybabe » Tue Aug 02, 2016 9:36 am

ahramin wrote:If you want to stay married, pick a good one and make your relationship with your spouse a priority. I don't think there's anything particular to aviation. I suspect the majority of divorced couples are happier off divorced.
That ^
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by rigpiggy » Tue Aug 02, 2016 3:16 pm

fish4life wrote:Haha, if you aren't married yet make sure she makes more than you do and it will make your divorce much cheaper.
I have a friend that tried to make his wife happy by working more to buy her things. When the day came around that she left, he was working 60-80 hr weeks. Her Lawyer went after support based on his last years T4, Now he still works 60-80 hrs to buy her things. If your going to divorce, don't take overtime or drafts to lower your income, spend as much time with her as you can, and document it pictures, texts, receipts etc...."your the Good Husband " Lawyers don't like to work for free, the less you have the less they'll take.

I know a guy who got appraisals on everything, and drew up 2 lists equal in assets. He put a bunch of things she wanted in one, and things he wanted in the other. She could pick one list, with the proviso that she would sign off without lawyers. Because, "Do you want to put our Kids through college, or the Lawyers"
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by EPR » Wed Aug 03, 2016 4:25 pm

I can add my one and a half pesos to the subject (that's about all I have left):
1) It's cheaper to keep her, and
2) the fucking you had is never as good as the fucking you get!
3) If it floats, flys or fucks....rent it!
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by bezerker » Wed Aug 03, 2016 11:18 pm

If you are ready to unplug and see the world for what it really is:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
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Re: The divorce thread

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by noon_crue » Thu Aug 04, 2016 6:06 am

My ex was with me for as long as I have been flying/ working in the industry (about 10 years, married for 2) she was all for "follow your dream" until the time came. I left for the summer to work the dock. And she instantly regretted say that. She told me several times that she didn't want to be married to a "part time husband." I threw the idea out there for her to move up north with me the next season. She laughed at that idea. And pretty much made me choose between her or my career..... So after being home for 2 months, and many arguments about this. I now have joined the Navy others affected by A.I.D.S and live in NWO with my dog, doing what I love. Lol

Moral of the story, single or dating is better, and cheaper than getting married
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by bobm » Thu Aug 04, 2016 11:06 am

After 2 divorces I finally got smart and married another pilot. Been almost 30 years now...
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by FOD » Thu Aug 04, 2016 4:05 pm

http://www.airlinepilotforums.com/forei ... rline.html
post number 8

Kudos Berzerker, I swallowed the Married Red Pill and now see it all for what it truly is.
Canadian men, best educate yourselves.

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by digits_ » Sat Aug 06, 2016 1:02 pm

FOD wrote:http://www.airlinepilotforums.com/forei ... rline.html
post number 8

Kudos Berzerker, I swallowed the Married Red Pill and now see it all for what it truly is.
Canadian men, best educate yourselves.

FOD
Even if you don't marry, isn't there that family law that considers that couples living together for 3 years are automatically considered to be common law with the same rights/spousal support consequences as non-married couples?

http://www.legalline.ca/legal-answers/c ... -break-up/

So what do you do about that, change partner every 3 years :mrgreen:
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by Mostly Harmless » Sun Aug 07, 2016 6:14 am

It's sad when a relationship goes FUBAR.

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by FOD » Sun Aug 07, 2016 7:01 am

Even if you don't marry, isn't there that family law that considers that couples living together for 3 years are automatically considered to be common law with the same rights/spousal support consequences as non-married couples?

http://www.legalline.ca/legal-answers/c ... -break-up/

So what do you do about that, change partner every 3 years :mrgreen:
There's a big difference. In common law, whoever bought or acquired the property keeps it. Under our heavily biased and antiquated Canadian Marital Law (except quebec) ANYTHING acquired while married is equally shared among spouses; regardless of conduct while married. For example, you and your spouse both work, earn roughly the same amount and both manage your own finances. One spouse is a diligent saver saving for retirement and living debt free, the other spouse contributes minimum to household costs, does not save for retirement, and spends all their money on personal gratification, while accumulating massive personal debt. When the eventual breakdown happens. The deadbeat with debt is an out and out winner, having the LEGAL ENTITLEMENT to half of the other spouses net worth while the faithful spouse will be saddled with the debt of the dead beat spouse.

Gentlemen, do your research before entering into this absurd legal arrangement.

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Re: The divorce thread

Post by 5x5 » Sun Aug 07, 2016 7:35 am

If this thread represents the feelings of a broader group, then I am truly depressed. In the example above there are a number of things that are expressed as though they are common. First, why would each person in a supposed union manage their money independently? They're supposed to be in it together. And even if they choose to, why would they not discuss the behaviour of each other and work toward common goals? A marriage is supposed to be much more than just being roommates.

Should there be a joint decision that one person stays home to look after the children it has to be viewed that they are contributing just as much, if not more, than the person that makes money.

Job relocation, promotions, career changes have to be joint decisions and can only be effective if there is a true commitment to a life-long partnership. This takes a lot of work, a lot of give and take and a willingness on both sides to give as well as take.

So many people these days seem to enter marriage as something that is temporary and only really committed to until something disappoints them or they feel stifled in some way. Marriage is all about shared success - both yours as well as your partner, and also shared commitment to overcome the disappointments - together. So many people say "You're so lucky" when they hear someone has been married 40 years. It's not luck - it's hard work and commitment. Which I guess is the real problem for so many people these days.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by lazyeight » Sun Aug 07, 2016 9:43 am

If you look only for your partner to fulfill you, your relationships will fail. Humans are inherently selfish people and you can't find your satisfaction in others. It's sad to see so many people I've known end their relationships because they never understood this.
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Re: The divorce thread

Post by cncpc » Sun Aug 07, 2016 1:59 pm

5x5 wrote:If this thread represents the feelings of a broader group, then I am truly depressed. In the example above there are a number of things that are expressed as though they are common. First, why would each person in a supposed union manage their money independently? They're supposed to be in it together. And even if they choose to, why would they not discuss the behaviour of each other and work toward common goals? A marriage is supposed to be much more than just being roommates.

Should there be a joint decision that one person stays home to look after the children it has to be viewed that they are contributing just as much, if not more, than the person that makes money.

Job relocation, promotions, career changes have to be joint decisions and can only be effective if there is a true commitment to a life-long partnership. This takes a lot of work, a lot of give and take and a willingness on both sides to give as well as take.

So many people these days seem to enter marriage as something that is temporary and only really committed to until something disappoints them or they feel stifled in some way. Marriage is all about shared success - both yours as well as your partner, and also shared commitment to overcome the disappointments - together. So many people say "You're so lucky" when they hear someone has been married 40 years. It's not luck - it's hard work and commitment. Which I guess is the real problem for so many people these days.
Nicely said, but probably an unwelcome intrusion of reason into this thread. LOL.
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