parents of common law..to employee

[koko]

can any one tell me for certain, when and if the parents of a common law spouse is eligible for flight priveleges.. our sons common law wife works for west jet.. they have lived together for over a year, last year she told us they had to be together for a year before we could be put on.as in laws.. now we are told that they are not recognized as legal.. not sure what that means... if no one is certain..can you tell me where i might call to find out.. thanks

[Kabloona]

Any flight benefits I've had and have (not Westjet), do not include in-laws. I'd be surprised if they do and I'm sure there is a company brochure or website for employees that your sons common law can access and answer your exact question.

[Flying Nutcracker]

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[koko]

thanks for the advice, but i am actually looking to find this info without going through my daughter in law.. looking for the truth..

[bombardierfixer]

Flight benefits go to parents of the Westjetter or the in-laws. You get two parent designate slots per Westjetter. and those can be changed twice a year. Myself I have my mother and mother in-law listed because they do the majority of the travel. My father and father in law are not listed but they can use buddy passes.

Sounds to me though you have a strained relationship with your sons girlfriend. And remember flight privileges , not rights.

[koko]

guess without explanation it sounds bad...i have taken care of my granddaughter, 24 hours a day 5 days a week for 4 months.. pay for formula,diapers, gas to drive back and forth twice a week.all food. and i clean her house when i come in... asked last year for a one time pass for our 40th anniversary.. i get privelege not right, but..

[altiplano]

Sounds like "the truth" is they don't want to give you passes.

[Krimson]

So the only reason to care for your granddaughter is to abuse your daughter in-law's flight passes?

She has no obligation to share them with you, and that sense of entitlement to her passes would make me want to not even try to help you out. Instead of trying to sneak behind her back to find information to interrogate her with, how about respecting her wishes with her passes.

[126.75]

Not saying it's true in this case however this must be said.

Airlines have had a serious problem with having these privileges being abused in the past. The reality is people who are not very familiar with the stand by policies. These can be stressfull for the employees using them let alone for someone who travels several times a year on a confirmed ticket and has a anniversary dinner booked that evening.

The fact of the matter is the way you come across is not what it should. It sounds like for all the work you have been doing with their kid you feel like you are owed a buddy pass. The precedent has been set prior to you by people who have harassed gate agents because they have been bumped off flights.

Regardless of all this congrats on the anniversary!

[koko]

i am going to try to put my problem out clearly.. My daughter in Law works for west jet... she and my son have been together for 5 years, but she always had a place in calgary.. in april 2011 she went on maternity leave and moved to winnipeg to live with our son... we asked her last year if we might use her flight privelege in 2011 for our 40 th anniversary.. she told us that would not be a problem.. she just had to be living here for a full year in order to put us on in place of her parents who never travel.. we waited until 2 days ago and then asked if we were able to plan our 40th anniversary which is 4 months away... she told us.. we c ould not... that west jet did not call her officially common Law... in the past 4 months since her return to work, our son has flown as her common law spouse numerous times. we take care of the baby full time. and i did not think we had a problem which is why i posed the question here... perhaps i have misunderstood what i read... i saw that westjet only requires that they share the same address for 1 year... i want to be certain that i am not wrong.. i feel very strongly about honesty.. and the airline tickets are less important than the truth about whether or not we are eligable... so if any of you know for certain please let me know... the expense of taking care of the baby surpasses and cost for the airline.. just honesty matters

[tiguan]

We get very limited passes at the company I work for. (Not westjet). I recently had a relative who abused his privileges and viewed his pass as a full fare ticket. I actually could have been fired for what he did. I have a new policy in place that the only people who get passes are my parents. Going forward as well, if I ever end up working for a company like Westjet I will ensure that there will only be limited people using my passes. I have far too much invested in this career for some careless person to ruin it.

[altiplano]

WestJet will allow single persons to nominate a flight partner so as not to discriminate when compared to married persons, maybe your son flew under that designation as opposed to common-law?

Anyway if your son and this girl are such deadbeats as to not pay for their own kid and pawn its care off on you 120 hours a week I suggest you forget standby passes and tell them you want a pair of paid return tickets to Barbados for your trouble.

[koko]

well based on 1 or 2 responses,, i think i know what i needed to... never cared about getting the passes, just was hurt that the TRUTH WAS she did not WANT TO. it is what it is.. whoever posted that i would only take my grandchild for a cheap airfare knows nothing about children or grandparents.. i worship my granddaughter and no matter how tired i am or how much pain i am in i will take care of her as long as she needs me.. have travelled for many years without my daughter in laws help and will continue to do so.. regret that my Husband asked for this favor.. I would not have.. because it would have been better to not know.. guess i am just overspend after 16 straight days and nights with a sick baby, and the timing was off to be told no cant help you.. whatever in 5 months i am off to sunny mexico for 5 months and this will all be forgotten.. am very embarrassed and ashamed that i somehow came off as a selfish person.. never meant it to be like that..

[Krimson]

That's the internet for ya!
No way to control how people interpret what you write.

Don't think about this thread anymore...enjoy that vacation and have a happy anniversary!

[rudder]

koko, you sound like a good person. As for your daughter in law - she is clearly a 'user'. I feel sorry for your son. She is with him, not you. I would leave them to their own devices, including child care. Enjoy your retirement!!

[complexintentions]

That's the internet for ya!
No way to control how people interpret what you write.

Yeah it probably doesn't help when people are hair-trigger quick to assume the worst and make snarky comments about it:

So the only reason to care for your granddaughter is to abuse your daughter in-law's flight passes?

She has no obligation to share them with you, and that sense of entitlement to her passes would make me want to not even try to help you out. Instead of trying to sneak behind her back to find information to interrogate her with, how about respecting her wishes with her passes.

Airlines have had a serious problem with having these privileges being abused in the past. The reality is people who are not very familiar with the stand by policies. These can be stressfull for the employees using them let alone for someone who travels several times a year on a confirmed ticket and has a anniversary dinner booked that evening.

If someone loans their privileges to a non-airline employee without making them very familiar with the usage policies, they have absolutely only themselves to blame if something comes back to bite them.

It isn's that complicated, it's like sharing anything valuable with anyone: make sure everyone concerned knows what the situation is!

[7thirtyseven]

If someone loans their privileges to a non-airline employee without making them very familiar with the usage policies, they have absolutely only themselves to blame if something comes back to bite them.

It isn's that complicated, it's like sharing anything valuable with anyone: make sure everyone concerned knows what the situation is!

this is funny.... So close to hitting on the real problem but ohhhh so far off.

Some folks, no matter how well you explain things JUST DONT GET IT, and Ill bet the daughter in law recognizes this and refuses to a. take responsibility for her inlaws actions if their travel plans get hijacked in some minor way.
or b. take the responsibility for a "ruined trip" because they got bumped.

These fine folks reek of dysfunction, just reading their quest on here makes it very clear why there are no passes available for them.

[CanadaEH]

can any one tell me for certain, when and if the parents of a common law spouse is eligible for flight priveleges.. our sons common law wife works for west jet.. they have lived together for over a year, last year she told us they had to be together for a year before we could be put on.as in laws.. now we are told that they are not recognized as legal.. not sure what that means... if no one is certain..can you tell me where i might call to find out.. thanks

With all due respect, you are not in a position to "call to find out" anything. Your daughter-in-law or whatever she is can do as she pleases with her benefits and if you're pissed off by the fact she has not placed you as her "parents", that's something you should be working out with her not exploring on an internet forum.

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[KAG]

Koko
Unless your a very flexible person with regards to travel and travel plans I don't recommend to people (even my own family, I'm a westjetter) to fly standby. Especially a planned out months in advance trip - it begs for murphy to show up.
Instead of airing this online why not sit down with them and share your thoughts - just ask.

Also we do need to be selective with whom we choose as our travel companions as your conduct
can have our privileges revoked. I'm not suggesting this the case but I also don't know you, just being honest.

[sarg]

Koko

Also we do need to be selective with whom we choose as our travel companions as your conduct
can have our privileges revoked. I'm not suggesting this the case but I also don't know you, just being honest.

Based on the tone of the post I'd say that's what the "daughter in-law" was trying to do without having to deal with the problem of dealing with telling Koko she's not suited for standby travel. I can just imagine dealing with her if she got bumped based on her actions coming here for info and the tone of her posts. (imperfect medium or not)