Son is 32, he is a plumber. He owns a 4 bedroom house on a 1/4 acre lot in town. Parked in the driveway he has a 2024 pickup. His partner has a 2019 pickup parked in the driveway. She works as an office assistant. Between them, they make nowhere near 400K, yet they can afford a detached home and 2 late model vehicles.
Daughter is a nurse, mid 30's, single mom with a 10 yr old at home. She owns a 3 bedroom rancher on a city lot, parked in her driveway is a 2019 SUV. She is on a cul-de-sac where most of the other families have kids in that age range as well, great location with no traffic and lots of kids.
Life is about choices, and priorities. Financially, it's all about managing the income one has, and spending it on the priorities. I dont think son has ever stepped inside a Starbucks. One of the big things for him, he never took on any debt other than the house, then bought the truck as his 'arrived' splurge after getting the red seal papers.
FYI, dont think either of them has ever ordered in for dinner, you wont find a case of beer in the house if you go there. One thing wife and I did after they bought the first home, for christmas that year, they got a freezer. Both stock up when they find a good deal on stuff that can go in the freezer. Son also tends to put a deer in the freezer most years in the fall.
Daughter works, sometimes crazy shifts, and she has the little one at home. Slow cooker is your friend, when she leaves for a shift that'll get her home late, prep the slow cooker before heading off to work, when she gets home, dinner is ready to go. Slow cooker will turn the cheapest / toughest piece of meat into something tender and delicious, with that added benefit of a healthy meal. Grandson is 10 now, so she has been able to ditch a major expense, no longer needs daycare for him after school. He is thrilled with his new found independence, he can walk home after school, and be there on his own for a few hours.
So no, you dont need a 400k income to have a detatched home and a relatively modern car in the driveway, but you do need to set priorities and spend / live accordingly. Both of our kids have done it, you can too if you set your mind to it.










