You are quite wrong. Again and again I bring up the emphasis on Safety. I think you have the wrong idea about being safe. Safety isn't something you do...It needs to be an attitude which clearly from what I can tell you nor your instructor have. Also that poster was not incorrect. You can't use De-Icing Fluid from a spray bottle!!!! People train on light aircraft to go on to bigger aircrafts don't they? You seriously have a wrong idea about all this.
You're barking up the wrong tree railing against these posters Vanguard, they know what they are talking about. You have been taught to follow instructions, and that's good. Keep doing that as long as you are comfortable doing so, and you will not be criticized for that. You may find in time that there is more than one way to be compliant with both safety and regulation, as you learn this, you may embrace some of these methods, but again that's up to you...
Interpreting or presenting advisory information as
regulation will slow your life down. Embracing the
philosophies of the advisory information will keep you safe - there's a difference.
There are times that I will fly a single Cessna, and know to within half a pound, and 0.1" of station, my W&B. There are other times when if I guess within 100 pounds, and am satisfied with my mental calculation that I'm within limits, I'm happy. It depends upon what I'm doing on that flight. For those times when my W&B is precise, I have witnessed an accurate weighing of the aircraft, three times, rotating the certified scales under the wheels. Dry fuel tanks. I have weighed myself, and everything being carried. I have added a specified volume of fuel, and getting the specific gravity for that batch of fuel, so I know it's actual weight. I then use a measuring tape to assure that the load is distributed as required to achieve the required C of G. From that, I calculate. You can be certain that W&B is right on. I do that a few times a year, and afterword, I'll sign an STC off for someone, because I am satisfied that the regulatory requirements for certification have been met.
Then, I'll jump in one of my planes, and fly home. I will have computed that particular W&B, for that plane, though perhaps not within the last few decades...
Satisfy yourself as the pilot that you're within W&B limits, and fly the plane safely. Be confident that other pilots are doing that too, though perhaps with a different approach....