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brocket99 · Post by **brocket99** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 11:08 am

Just lost the future wife because of the distance, anyone else ever have this happen?? Its always at the work possible time.

Uluwatu · Post by **Uluwatu** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 11:41 am

I asked my future wife before even I got committed with her (2 weeks after I realized that was her) if she would mind moving with me because of the job... she said yes. and she ll do.
I lost my ex girlfriend because of the same reason as you, and i will never regret it. My future wife is a treasure.
good luck, but you can still try to talk and work it out. or maybe she was just not the right one for you. If she keeps you from going forward, then it might have been the best thing that ever happened to you and beside if she really loves you she might come back... or maybe not.

Hawker · Post by **Hawker** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 1:29 pm

I think I can see losing my 2nd serious girlfriend because of a move that I might make. I know that I really have no choice in doing it otherwise I'd be throwing away everything I've already worked for. At the same time it doesn't really make it any easier. Now that this is the second time I'm starting to wonder if this is going to be the trend if I stay in aviation.

Hedley · Post by **Hedley** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 1:42 pm

Don't confuse being lonely with being horny.

Get a dog if you're lonely.

Right Seat Captain · Post by **Right Seat Captain** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 2:04 pm

Hedley wrote:Don't confuse being lonely with being horny.

Get a dog if you're lonely.

... · Post by **...** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 3:57 pm

brocket99 wrote:Just lost the future wife because of the distance, anyone else ever have this happen?? Its always at the work possible time.

Hey bro. Thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear. There is nothing anyone can say to easy the pain.

I hated when people told me 'Time heals all things.'

So I won't say it to ya...but it's true.

Surround yourself with friends...lose yourself in activities. Don't rush to get over it. You're mourning someone that has essentially died in your personal life.

If you're a pilot... for goodness sake...leave you personal issues on the ground. You got enough to worry about while you are flying.

...you'll land on your feet dancing.

Mitch Cronin · Post by **Mitch Cronin** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 4:56 pm

Birddog.... speaking of losses.... good day to bring back that avatar... Thanks.

Uluwatu · Post by **Uluwatu** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 5:02 pm

Hey Brocket99

Listen to Birddog, Way to go. he is absolutly right on that. time is everything. Give time to time.
Take it easy and keep yourself busy.
I worked 6 months up north and it is not easyaway from your love, but flying a lot kept my mind out of trouble, especially when the weather got low...

just focus...

hang tight...

. ._ · Post by **. ._** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 5:02 pm

That FUCKING BITCH!

There are other fish in the sea. Upgrade! You deserve it!

-istp

brocket99 · Post by **brocket99** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 5:38 pm

Thanks for the kind responses and for the honest ones. I have decided to go on the line a instructor in college told me once. "If your dog dies, get a new dog." But a new dog won't mean I will stop missing the old one.

Capt · Post by **Capt** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 7:21 pm

sorry to hear. i have been lucky, my future wife has moved everywhere with me, northern sask, then northern alberta. but now we are home in yyc. had lots of friends lose loveones because of the distance, it really sucks because everyone dreams of flying but it's hard on the life.

you must be from southern alberta with that name, brocket99. i loved that radio broadcast.

BusDriver · Post by **BusDriver** » Thu Dec 08, 2005 8:58 pm

When I lost my GF, I simply immersed myself in this website and free internet porn! So far, I am still nuts!

basler · Post by **basler** » Fri Dec 09, 2005 7:38 am

It happened to me this week too. It sucks I had 4 years in but just keep the rubber on the pavement. For some reason everything is better in the air.

petite · Post by **petite** » Fri Dec 09, 2005 12:23 pm

Happens to the opposite sex as well. My ex wanted to sit on his ass in one city where there were no real opportunities for me (or him - both of us went to school for maintenance). We wanted two different things in life. When he finds that girl to be his wife and mother of his children, I'll be the first to buy him a round. It sure as hell wasn't going to be me.

SplitS · Post by **SplitS** » Fri Dec 09, 2005 12:35 pm

Dont waste your time crying - life goes on and the way I always looked at it - if it didnt work out then she wasnt the one. When you find the right one then it will all pay off. It did for me and lordy, Im one ugly SOB!!!!

TFE731 · Post by **TFE731** » Fri Dec 09, 2005 2:05 pm

istp wrote:That FUCKING BITCH!

There are other fish in the sea. Upgrade! You deserve it!

-istp

HAHA! "The dude abides man, and I will not stand for this aggression!"

Highflyinpilot · Post by **Highflyinpilot** » Fri Dec 09, 2005 8:28 pm

Happened to me 4 weeks ago. It does suck, but life does go on

Mclovin · Post by **Mclovin** » Mon Dec 12, 2005 9:42 am

I know how you're feeling brocket I myself am going through the exact same thing right now, I am trying to stay positive and possibly make a move to somewhere new and start over, hoping for a big city where there is a little more to do than where I am to keep myself occupied. Anyway hang in there buddy.

xsbank · Post by **xsbank** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 6:23 pm

Way to finish off a thread, Panama. Class. All class.

brocket99 · Post by **brocket99** » Wed Dec 14, 2005 8:54 pm

Hello,

First off I would like to thank everyone for the support and its mildly comforting to know I wasn’t alone. I need a fresh start I think. I was planning on putting the career on hold to move and be with her in London for her university but that’s done now. I realized that the only time it stops hurting is when I am flying and I should never have put that on hold.

I know this is going to sound challis and fake but I assure you it was never my intention. I was dumb enough to quit my last job. Now I have talked to my former employer and I am not welcome back so now with my tail between my legs and my balls available for anyone to kick I ask for help.

I will move anywhere anytime.

Thanks.

Pugster · Post by **Pugster** » Thu Dec 15, 2005 8:46 am

Hard lesson to learn I suppose, but better you find out now than when she tanks your cocktail party interview with Cx by saying she'd never move to Hong Kong.

Having a supportive partner in this business is more of a requirement than knowing how to fly the airplane. I've seen many people (including myself) being downright dangerous in the airplane because a girl has had me distracted. Granted, she was going down on me at the time!

Just kidding - keep your head high bro, it'll get better.

thorvald · Post by **thorvald** » Thu Dec 15, 2005 3:16 pm

You've got lay the rules down with the broads right off the bat just like you set tiles straight for the first time.
This is your career and it just ain't gonna change - as long as you're pilot or maintenance you are likely to be layed off a few times and that means that sometimes you'll have to move to continue with your career.
Not only that, you'll always try to get a better job, better pay and equipment as you go along this road.
Therefore I think you have to get this cleared right away before getting too much involved, otherwise you'll end up doing something real stupid, like not taking a great job because some whining bitch wants you around to watch flicks for chicks or sensitive guys.
If you lost some chick because she didnt want to compromise, then no worries 'coz she was just not meant to be anyways.

avro_girl · Post by **avro_girl** » Sun Dec 18, 2005 4:57 pm

I agree with most of you that your career should be your main priority. Considering how much time and money you each put into it.

But I just want to say from a girlfriend of a pilot point of view. Most woman dont want to be in a long distance relationship, we have a hard time dealing with it. And if she says its okay...she is only saying it because she wants you to be happy.

So my advice, take it or leave it.... dont get into a relationship until u are happy with where you are in your career. Or find a girl that is just as career driven as you are.

Just my 2 cents....Avro Girl

twotter · Post by **twotter** » Sun Dec 18, 2005 7:26 pm

Brockett, first off, I love the name and wonder how many people know what it means..

Don't worry cause the way it happened means it just wasn't meant to be..

You do have to find someone who is willing to put up with the crap that aviation will deal you.. These people are out there, and I'm sure you will land on your feet with someone new who will make you wonder what the hell were you thinking before...

Cheers

Highflyinpilot · Post by **Highflyinpilot** » Sun Dec 18, 2005 7:44 pm

What does it mean?

AIDS

AIDS

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