How do you get over a girlfriend?

JW · Post by JW » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:49 pm

Any ideas besides booze would be great, thats the only one I know.

JW

niss · Post by **niss** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:50 pm

Punch the clown.

.80@410 · Post by **.80@410** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 10:56 pm

Go Bang every chick you can that's hotter then her...and I do mean hotter..

Otherwise you will just feel worse the next day

Seriously,

Drink beer with your buddies, bitch her out, tell us all how yer gonna rail the next one ..

You'll feel better when you do.

mellow_pilot · Post by **mellow_pilot** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 11:40 pm

If you truly loved her? It hurts forever... so far...

peeelot · Post by **peeelot** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 3:36 am

It's been 9 months for me and It still kills inside. So if she was the one it going to hurt for a bit. Sorry can help you out.

l_reason · Post by **l_reason** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 4:51 am

I think the best way to get over a girl is a balance of living the single life for a while kind of like what .8@ 410 said and keeping your self busy. Start doing something new in your life, something that is going to help your confidence. Join a gym, go skydiving, buy a motorcycle, or in this business pack up and move to get a better flying job because your not tied down anymore. In a couple months or when you see her next, make sure your changed man … more fit, more cultured, and happier. Trust me your going to want to be feeling better about things at X-mas & new years because both of those holidays suck ass if your unhappily single!

If your not feeling better by February book your self a week in Cancun for spring break 2007. If you cant find “happiness“ there I don’t know what you can do..

Good luck!

Dr. Phil · Post by **Dr. Phil** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 4:53 am

A couple of you all have the right idea, one of you solves issues with violence and the other is a complete moron who needs a professional evaluation. I'll let you decide who is who.

Losing a mate is just that, whether they left on their own or passed away. You go through similar mourning process. For some, it lasts a life time but normally the magnatude decreases with time.

You will always have thoughts of that person.

Good mental health!

Dr. P

cplpilot · Post by **cplpilot** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 5:59 am

I got a tatoo, brought a new car and spent 2 week in the carabbien where i met another girl (it didn't last much with this).
In 2 month i was over my ex fiancee!!!!
Now i am married with a wonderful woman and i have 1 baby that i love even more because he look like his mother!!!
Happiness is always around the corner....
Ciao

wingtip · Post by **wingtip** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 6:20 am

.80@410 wrote:Go Bang every chick you can that's hotter then her...and I do mean hotter..

Otherwise you will just feel worse the next day

Seriously,

Drink beer with your buddies, bitch her out, tell us all how yer gonna rail the next one ..

You'll feel better when you do.

..so grudge fk as many others as you can to get even with the one that was smart enough to leave?? .80, you have the makings of a serial rapist.

Maybe karma will intervene and you will be blessed with daughters. Assuming you find someone to have them with.

niss · Post by **niss** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 7:23 am

A couple of you all have the right idea, one of you solves issues with violence and the other is a complete moron who needs a professional evaluation. I'll let you decide who is who.

For the record....punching the clown was earlier established as an inuendo for self gratification.....but you may be right in thinking it could get a little violent.

. ._ · Post by **. ._** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 7:25 am

Tough to hear, dude. Eventually everything gets OK.

For me, I appreciate every day of my single freedom. Get off the bottle as soon as possible, keep busy doing other stuff. Talking to a good friend who has been through a divorce, or some other major break-up about the whole thing- that helps a lot, I find.

And make sure that friend is NOT a woman.

Even though it doesn't feel like you will be, you'll be fine.

BTW, congratulations on being single! You're FREE!!

-istp

Miss Mae · Post by **Miss Mae** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:10 am

cplpilot wrote:Happiness is always around the corner....

I believe that too!, try and stay positive, it will get better.

cplpilot · Post by **cplpilot** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:20 am

If i tell you how i met my wife, you will not belive it!!!!!
What it made me realize that she was the right one unbelivably, was that i was soo happy with myself and so happy to be single that when i told myself "i can't live without her!" i was sure that i was getting married for the right reasons (8 month after i met her i got married).
Be happy with yourself, do what you please and like, this is the right time to make yourself the center of your life. If someone comes and you are ready to give up this "freedom" you know you are ready and that she is the one!!!

pianodude · Post by **pianodude** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:22 am

28 years with the same woman(i'm now 45). i guess i'm pretty lucky!!

Hedley · Post by **Hedley** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:44 am

In time, you will get over it. Years from now, you won't even be able to remember what she looks like.

In the meantime, don't sit around and mope. Enjoy being single - go out and have fun with friends. Party. Get drunk. Get laid.

Go someplace new, where you can party, get drunk, meet someone else better looking, and get laid.

Just don't tell the next girl you screw that you love her, ok? Because you don't. Don't confuse lust and love.

Look on the bright side. How many hundreds of thousands of dollars did this one cost you?

Free advice, which you will ignore: no woman is worth being a slave for.

SkyWolfe · Post by **SkyWolfe** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:06 am

Aww im very sorry to hear that

*hugs*

IMHO, every closed door just opens a new one - so just get excited about what's behind the next door - it's the only way I stay sane sometimes

Wilbur · Post by **Wilbur** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:14 am

Never pin you hapiness on another person. She left, so what! Look around, your surrounded by a couple million others your age. If you're under 35, it's probably a god send. There's way too much fun to be had in this world, that can only be had when you are young, single, and with limited responsibilities in life.

Only take on the limitations of a relationship when the realities of age, career and other aspects of life catch up to you and also limit your lifestyle.

You can hook up with someone at any point in life, but you can only go hard at sports and partying, be wild and crazy, when you are young.

trey kule · Post by **trey kule** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 9:40 am

Skywolfe wrote:

Aww im very sorry to hear that *hugs*

Ah Skywolfe, I am kind of hurt too. feeling blue, Many bad things have happend to me...and well...um....you know... he is not the only one that might like a hug.

Walker · Post by **Walker** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 10:06 am

trey kule wrote:Skywolfe wrote:

Aww im very sorry to hear that *hugs*

Ah Skywolfe, I am kind of hurt too. feeling blue, Many bad things have happend to me...and well...um....you know... he is not the only one that might like a hug.

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Buddha says the key to happiness is to learn to let go…

yycflyguy · Post by **yycflyguy** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 10:31 am

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone new.

mellow_pilot · Post by **mellow_pilot** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 11:25 am

Not true. I tried.

SkyWolfe · Post by **SkyWolfe** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 1:22 pm

lol - Im such a sucker for hugs

*hugs* for trey

Jeremy · Post by **Jeremy** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 2:08 pm

One thing I have learned is that if you were in love, then you will always love her.

As 'dr. phil' said, it is a loss. If the two of you were together some time and/or you have strong feelings for her, it will feel as though you are loosing family and not just some girl.

Day by day it gets easier...bit by bit, little by little. Depending on the circumstances of the break-up and your feelings for her, it may sting longer then you expect.

If you're having trouble sleeping, I recommend taking a sleeping pill once and a while. This will help tremendously. Just be careful not to take them very often - only when you really really need a solid night's sleep.

Find a way to keep yourself mentally/physically busy to help stop you from dwelling on the situation. Find a hobby, exercise, read, advance your career, spend time with friends...whatever you choose, make sure it's a positive activity you can focus on.

Hitting the bottle is a band-aid and not a good one at that.

As everyone has said, it will get easier.

Best of luck JW - we're with ya.

buck82 · Post by **buck82** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 3:02 pm

until the next one crushes you too..

water wings · Post by **water wings** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 3:22 pm

istp wrote:Tough to hear, dude. Eventually everything gets OK. -istp

WHOT? is istp getting better and not so bitter? woohoo!! see? it does get easier, JW

a plain old break up is easier to "get over" than a cheating induced break up - the key is to realize, it ain't your fault, and you are better off wihout them. Sometimes, nothing feels better than being by yourself. When it feels better to be with someone else, rock on.